Saturday, June 7, 2014

"Gamble everything for love, if you’re a true human being. If not, leave this gathering"

Kuch to b ulta is happening... something very opposite to my years long conditioning on love...
All the movies we see, all the songs we hear and all the things people tell us about love are the ones who give love a bad name, turning love into something it is not. When I constantly hear songs with lyrics that go something like this: 
“I’m nothing without you.”
“You make me whole.”
“You complete me.”
 “I’m dying without you…. bla bla bla.” 
And when constantly watching all happy ending wali mushy Bollywood movies ;) where the lead character is this sad, lost, lonely and very unhappy person who can’t be happy on his own but once he finds his “soul mate”, the “love of their life”, all of a sudden they come back to life,  no wonder you start to develop all kind of limiting beliefs about what love is...
How come anyone can make me feel whole when I was never incomplete in the first place? And how can anyone be the love of my life when I myself is the love of my life ;)
I doubt really if i need another person to complete me, I guess I only need someone with whom I can share my completeness.
Is my salvation gonna come from another man or woman?. Naah !!! And know why? Because no matter how much love “THE ONE” will project onto me and no matter how hard he will try to make me feel happy, whole and loved, if I haven’t found a way to love myself fully, I will not be able to experience true love. I will never be able to experience the love he want me to experience. I will keep going back to my original state of being and the sad part is that, consciously or not, I will drag him down with me :(
I'm kind of curious to know and discover myself cz the more I know and understand myself, the more i will be able to understand what life is all about, what love is all about and what I am all about. Only by knowing myself I can know others and only by loving myself I can love others.
Someone rightly said, i dunno who.. but i remember what.. "Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same toward you, it can be said that you are in a love relationship with him or her. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or with a bird, a tree, a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs" 
There are many writers who said and wrote so well.. and made our lives easier... ;) see such a simplistic thought on love...!!!!

I know so little about love because I know so little about myself, about who I truly am and about what I'm really capable of being, doing and achieving.We go to the Moon, we go to Mars. We explore all corners of the Earth and we explore the Universe but we don’t seem to care too much about exploring our inner world, our internal Universe...
The day will come when I will take a better look at myself and all that I am and realize that everything I was searching for, all the love, all the wealth and all the happiness  I was so desperately seeking for was already within me.... And oh my God, what a beautiful day that will be :)

Sunday, May 18, 2014

Will taking the road less traveled, can take me there? ... Life's calling


I have this pic saved in ma blackberry from quite a few days... I look at it wonder and move to others.. finally it has caught up my attention and thoughts so much that I'm here with this pic..! this pic and then I heard of this line "it sounds like life is calling you to do something BIG and you haven’t picked up the phone.” " Really? I wanna write more about all the things that I personally needed to know , the things that catch up my curiosity and know wot, the more I write the more I learn and discover, life and myself and our connections with this universe.
I will stop writing the day I'll discover who I am and whats the purpose of my existence, or may be I'll continue writing even then, about the journey of ma life with a "before and after" comparison ;)
I have been listening a lot lately.. advises , orders, my  odds, life's odds... ! In life, people will try to convince you that what you feel in your heart is not what you should apply in your life and that to dream is to be naive. That you should look for safety and stability, always behaving and doing what everyone else is doing BUT it’s so important to stop for a little while, take  a few steps back and ask yourself: “What do I want? How do I want my life to unfold?”
I think why not try a change? If I'm feeling I'm being called to do something new, something different; if I'm hearing ma heart's calling me, begging me to do things I have never done before and explore worlds I have never explored before, this is the time to do it! actually why not?
After all, my heart, my soul, my intuition, my inner GPS… they are a lot wiser than I think and they know things that my mind does not. I wanna dare to trust their wisdom. Dare to take the road less traveled because that’s how I think I can find my purpose and calling in life. Taking the road less traveled will take me there. :)
Now I wanna learn to listen to my own inner voice, to do what I myself feel in my heart is right for me and not what the majority thinks I should do. I'm almost going to be 30, spent 30 years on this planet and if I'll keep following the crowd I guess I can go no further than the crowd.
Let's just don’t be afraid to let go off familiar places and familiar faces to explore new lands. Don’t be afraid to take the path less traveled and do things that nobody else dared to do before.
Lets find the courage to take risks. To get out of comfort zone and go the opposite direction from where everyone else is going. Simply because my heart is asking me too.
Awesome feeling to start with.. Lets start living Adi ! muwahhhh :*

Monday, March 31, 2014

When things go wrong....!!!

Simply motivating .. these eight things I would read over n again to regain my faith in life when everything seems to go wrong...!!!


1. PAIN IS PART OF GROWING.

Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us to. When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. Good things take time. Stay patient and stay positive. Everything is going to come together; maybe not immediately, but eventually.

Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.

2. EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS TEMPORARY.

Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever.

So if things are good right now, enjoy it. It won’t last forever. If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either. Just because life isn’t easy at the moment, doesn’t mean you can’t laugh. Just because something is bothering you, doesn’t mean you can’t smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. You get a second chance, every second. You just have to take it and make the best of it.

3. WORRYING AND COMPLAINING CHANGES NOTHING.

Those who complain the most, accomplish the least. It’s always better to attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. It’s not over if you’ve lost; it’s over when you do nothing but complain about it. If you believe in something, keep trying. Don’t let the shadows of the past darken the doorstep of your future. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any brighter. Take action instead. Let what you’ve learned improve how you live. Make a change and never look back.

And regardless of what happens in the long run, remember that true happiness begins to arrive only when you stop complaining about your problems and you start being grateful for all the problems you don’t have.

4. YOUR SCARS ARE SYMBOLS OF YOUR STRENGTH.

Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward. A scar is the tattoo of a triumph to be proud of. Don’t allow your scars to hold you hostage. Don’t allow them to make you live your life in fear. You can’t make the scars in your life disappear, but you can change the way you see them. You can start seeing your scars as a sign of strength and not pain.

Someone once said, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most powerful characters in this great world are seared with scars. See your scars as a sign of “YES! I MADE IT! I survived and I have my scars to prove it! And nowI have a chance to grow even stronger.”

5. EVERY LITTLE STRUGGLE IS A STEP FORWARD.

In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion. It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end. It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.

And if you want it, you’ll do it, despite failure and rejection and the odds. And every step will feel better than anything else you can imagine. You will realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path. And it’s worth it. So if you’re going to try, go all the way. There’s no better feeling in the world… there’s no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE. 

6. OTHER PEOPLE’S NEGATIVITY IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.

Be positive when negativity surrounds you. Smile when others try to bring you down. It’s an easy way to maintain your enthusiasm and focus. When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are. You can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you. They do things because of them.

Above all, don’t ever change just to impress someone who says you’re not good enough. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a brighter future. People are going to talk regardless of what you do or how well you do it. So worry about yourself before you worry about what others think. If you believe strongly in something, don’t be afraid to fight for it. Great strength comes from overcoming what others think is impossible.

All jokes aside, your life only comes around once. This is IT. So do what makes you happy and be with whoever makes you smile, often.

7. WHAT’S MEANT TO BE WILL EVENTUALLY, BE.

True strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you have to be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You can’t force things to happen. You can only drive yourself crazy trying. At some point you have to let go and let what’s meant to be, BE.

In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience. It’s a long-term journey. You have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting every step of the way. Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not end up exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be. 

8. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS TO KEEP GOING.

Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.

Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher. Find the strength to laugh every day. Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful. Find it in your heart to make others smile too. Don’t stress over things you can’t change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing.